Being “whole and healed” is just having the tools to figure out your next step

I think there’s a misconception around what it means to be “healed.” We see people online sharing their healing journeys, consciously or subconsciously assuming they have “made it” to some utopic ending where life is no longer challenging and nothing ever phases them. With this ending in mind, we set ourselves on this road to healing our own trauma, our own wounds, our own emotional challenges that have plagued us throughout our lives, assuming if we follow the protocols or purchase the right products that we will find ourselves in that magical place of being whole and healed.

              But here’s the thing. Chasing the idea of this magical place where challenges don’t exist will inherently set us up for failure. Because being whole and healed does not mean we feel good all the time. It just means that we have more tools to figure out what we need to do next along our journey.

              Being whole and healed does not make us impermeable to the difficulties of life. We will still experience grief, pain, depression, anxiety. But when those sensations or experiences arise, we have the ability to zoom out and observe our situation. What is it that I may need in this moment? How can I support myself? How can I lean on others for support? Is there a next step in this moment I can take? Understanding the language of our bodies, the sensations that arise, and how we can work in those spaces to bring ourselves back to a place of equilibrium are the real tools that individuals who are “whole and healed” use on a daily basis to navigate life. And it takes time to both learn and implement these skills into our daily lives.

              Being whole and healed is not a destination. It is a journey. One that requires an immense amount of support, love, curiosity, and empathy to navigate. Curious about learning more? Integrative coaching is how I work with clients to cultivate this sense of embodied understanding of self to support individuals on their healing journeys. I’d be honored to share more. Discovery calls are always free, and I would truly love to hear from you.

Much love, Marysa